marriage

what is marriage all about
except two individuals getting together
to make a complete life for themselves
and their children
trying to give them a better future

who is doing whom a favor here
it's a complete pledge and bonding
on an equal level
none is complete without the other
if we could just throw off the misconceptions
held in our minds
how much happier each individual would be

life can be so beautiful if we can just accept
and respect each person's individuality
instead of impressing our views and needs on them
force could never beget love and respect
only understanding and compassion does

unfortunately each marriage is entered with such a wrong idea
each is oppressing the other.. leaving no breathing space at all
somehow changing something so beautiful into life imprisonment

and who is to blame.. each person is a wonderful human being
in their own right.. but only don't know how to relate to each other

men usually feel they are doing their wives a favor
by marrying them, taking care of them
and hold that sword over their head always
that hurts each time it falls
forgetting absolutely that marriage is not about favors
but about unification
the merging of two families, individuals.. equally

women too feel as if men should totally forget about living
going out having a good time
simply because they have got married

but does marrying someone really mean you forget to live
you forget yourself.. your wishes, needs.. what you enjoy
there are so many things one needs to be aware of.. accept
too much pressure has been put on that one word 'marriage'
and the burden becomes just too much for some to take
and if you ask each one of them separately
you'd still realize that each is a wonderful human being

we are all just living in our narrow thoughts and beliefs
and continue to make each other miserable as such
one can see any relationship whatsoever
whether it's parents and children
brother and sisters.. friends.. any of it
each one only succeeds and breathes
in the face of understanding and respect of individual needs
which becomes absolutely mutual
no one who simply makes rules and expects them to be followed
could ever hope to be truly respected or followed
it simply begets lies and deception

strength isn't about force.. it's about conviction
values.. belief in yourself
enough to be able to get you way
without any need for force at all
so where is the need to prove ourselves stronger
assert our will

a lot of thought should be put in this one step
each human being takes in life
it's a question of your whole life
and definitely not to be decided by a two minute
look at your life partner
and it is a definite must to keep a complete balance
between the two in every way possible
else they go through their whole life and still can't
ever rise above their complexes
making each other and themselves
even more miserable
and turning into individuals where
they themselves are ashamed to face their reflections..
unless they are complete individuals from within
which is really rare to find.. and somehow fades faced
with day to day living with so many complexes

we are supposed to be making for a better future here
this all words towards giving everything better to our children
what else do e put the meaning of our existence as
and yet we lead such miserable lives
and such are the roots we give our kids
and this is the kind of suffocating environment
we give them to breathe in
what are we struggling so much for
is that all that is important
a good education.. material stability
is that all you yourself need
then how can we expect our children to be happy and complete
marriage should definitely not mean you stop to exist absolutely
we all have a beating heart and aware mind
how can we stop those and why.. why not grow together
why must we have to kill each others desire to move on
neither is happy that way
it only leads to frustration.. lethargy.. disinterest
all negative feelings when life can be so alive together
each one.. wherever you look
is plodding through a marriage as a compulsion
seeing no way out.. defeated.. when if they tried
if both were ready to hear and listen to each other
really care about each person in their own right
how much different life would be
those constant happy smiles so full of love
would be enough reward in themselves....